I got the idea for this post from Jacqui Zadik‘s article called „Top 5 annoying things people without kids say to people with kids“. I think she‘s great in that article! She definitely has a voice and has written the right things! It was kind of dissapointing though when I read the comments below – most of them were terrible! A woman wrote that her puppy needs as much care as a kid and it‘s probably even cuter… A man wrote that people who chose not to have kids are special, not the other way around… Sorry, but: WTF?! What can I say: haters gonna hate.
Here‘s Jacqui Zadik‘s top 5:
- When I have kids, I’ll never let them [fill in the blank]
- I’m totally broke, I went to three weddings in the last few months.
- I am so busy, I have no free time.
- *Yawn* I am SO tired.
- I know exactly what you mean, I have a puppy.
I think some of them apply to the period of pregnancy and are similar to what we hear while we are pregnant. Honestly, sometimes I want to stop communicating with most people. It‘s quite annoying listening to the same things from everybody over and over again.
I have already told you about the gender thing (See „Baby‘s gender: why does everyone want to know?“) – when I meet someone for the 1st time or when I see somebody I know but I haven‘t seen for a while, the most common question about my pregnancy is: A boy or a girl? Not how I‘ve been doing. Not when I am going to have the baby. But what the baby‘s gender is.
They often ask me if I am worried or afraid of giving birth. They explain to me how painful it is. So, yeah: thanks for the support. No, I am not afraid – I am not going through with a life-saving operation during which I might die. I am going to give birth.
Another thing that comes to mind is everything people with children say to me without even asking them. Especially older people. I know they mean well – I know that. But here‘s the deal: I am not a person who is afraid or ashamed to ask. I always ask for help when I need it and when I have a problem or when I want an opinion. On the other hand, if I haven‘t asked for your advice or opinion and you start blabbering about your experience which was a couple of years ago and you start convincing me that you did everything right and I need to listen to you…Please shut up. Every pregnancy is an individual process. There is my doctor who is taking care of me. There are the books I am reading. There is the pregnancy course I am attending. There is my mother who I trust. If I need help: I‘ll ask for it. Keep the blabbering for yourself.
The opposite thing: people who don‘t have children and haven‘t been pregnant telling you they know how you feel. How do you know? I am just wondering. For example, I don‘t know how it feels to have a child. I don‘t know how other women feel during pregnancy. I only know how I feel while I am pregnant.
So, there is my list of top 5 annoying things people say to pregnant women:
A boy or a girl?
Are you afraid / scared of giving birth?
When I was pregnant, I did this … and that…
I know how you feel.
Probably it‘s just the hormones…
Ah, yes – the hormones. Because of them I cannot make any rational decisions and right choices. Right?!? Just so you know.
What annoying things have you heard from people during your pregnancy?